Extra-marital affairs can be devastating, and can often bring an end to long-term relationships. In some cases, couples do their best to reconcile in order to save the marriage. One aspect of a relationship that may require special attention is sexual activity, as the feelings of betrayal, jealousy and guilt may put a damper on the eroticism of a relationship.

According to Psychology Today, couples should take a proactive approach to overcoming the sexual hampering brought about by philandering. Both members of the marriage should work to develop a new style of sexuality. Though the temptation may be strong, comparing marital sex with any sex that happened outside of the relationship could cause further damage.

Couples should view the adultery as a “wake up call,” according to the source. Together, husband and wife should work together to understand what caused the affair, particularly if any of it was due to marital sexual style. If so, it’s time to reevaluate and figure out what can be done to improve the sex.

One issue that can make extra-marital affairs more complicated has to do with safe sex. If the cheating partner became infected with an STD, and then gave that infection to his or her partner, the couple may need to consider their safer sex practices in their bedroom.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that there are approximately 19 million new STD infections every year in the United States. Those who want to lower their risk of contracting an STD should be sure to purchase condoms and use them every time they have sex. Additionally, it’s essential to be open and honest about sexual history with all partners, including spouses.