A person without self control is like a
City with broken-down walls….
-Proverbs 25:28
“What is happening here?” Mrs Botiri asked the duo,
though the question was actually directed to the house
maid who was standing half naked, trying to cover her
self with a wrapper,
“I am finished!!!” she screamed, louder. Well she had just
faced a great shocker in her life,she had caught her
16year old son sleeping with her housemaid.. Who was
7years older than he was, or maybe the reverse was the
None of the duo was expecting the presence of Jame’s
parents in the house. Mrs Botiri was expected to still be
in Dubai, while her husband should be on one of his trips
to India for his medical check up. She had arrived and
when there was no one to welcome her, she went to the
maid’s room and found no one, then she proceeded to
her son’s room only to find him under her house maid,
doing the most despicable act ever.
Its not Nne’s fault too. The entire episode that led to that
very day started 9years before. James was still a little
boy and he hardly did anything than wake up from bed.
The maid bathed him, clothed him, took him to school
too. His parents were never around. His father, a civil
engineer with various trips from one part of the country to
another, while his mother, a jewelry dealer. She was either
in Dubai or one of those countries abroad, and when she
was in Nigeria she was practically in her shop, or
attending one party or another. James never knew his
parents except on Christmas and easter..
Nne his maid, suddenly became attracted to him, as a
result of the heartbreak she had from her boyfriend.. He
was bathing James on a Saturday morning and they were
all alone in the big mansion, when she suddenly had the
urge to touch him sexually. The naked little boy was
standing in front of her unperturbed all he wanted was a
bathe so that he could resume his sleeping mode again…
She went ahead with her urge, and James who didn’t
understand it, just felt the little tingly effect that came
with it, he didn’t ask any questions as he thought it was a
new way to bathe him.
Soon it became a routine for Nne to touch his manhood
when she was bathing for him, then she graduated to
taking her bathe with him and encouraging him to also
touch her inappropriate manners….
This act became more frequent, and the little boy who
seemed to enjoy the touching her part of it, became
curious and wanted to know more, so when he was 10
and in jss1 she introduced him to pornography, they
would watch the video clips together and practiced the
various acts together,
James became more experienced when his classmates
told him about their various escapades with girls, well he
was fellowship member in his secondary due to the
influence of his best friend, so he certainly couldn’t share
his home experience with anyone, he kept it a secret. By
jss3, his parents moved him to the boarding school, he
was angry, he protested for days, but it didn’t have any
effect because there was no one to protest to, all they
had to do was pay his bills and take him to school. He
soon resulted in masturbation as a mode of replacing Nne
his house maid although he missed her. He never spent a
second in school as soon as it was holiday … He was
home to satisfy his sexual urge with her, this continued
for years, while Nne who thought she had him under her
influence threw caution to the wind and slept in his room
at all times…
On that day before they were caught, she was tired and
just finished her period. James had pestered her, haven
waited for her to finish her menstruation period. They had
started their usual act, when the door flung open
revealing their secret to Mrs Botiri…
Nne did not spend the night in that house, she was
sacked and sent away.. James was not cautioned or dealt
with, she even ignored the fact that her son was involved
in the act, she blamed the maid stating she must have
seduced him…
James couldn’t take it anymore, he watched pornography
and became a regular p–n subscriber. The only time he
was not on a pornography website was when his friends
were around, and none of them knew about his sexual
addiction. Who would know? he knew the bible and was
good at teaching the scriptures, but he had a dual life…
His short journey in UNIBEN before crossing to OAU was
full of various escapades. He took his time to sleep with
various girls, he enjoyed every bit of it… But as soon as he
got to OAU, his “bad lifestyle” changed, he had to fit in to
his friends’ mode of life, he was not a bit born again, and
he still secretly masturbated, he lusted after ladies, and
all he practiced was activities…
“Hello Tola, am sorry I was asleep” James lied to the
beautiful young damsel standing him front of him, he was
busy with his laptop watching a new pornography video he
had just downloaded, he couldn’t hear her knocks
because he had earpiece in his ears, it was Joseph’s call
that made him realise someone was at the door…
“Thanks pastor James, you are looking fresh ohh” Tola
replied him. She was clad in a pink inner singlet covered
with a white jacket and a short white skirt just a little
above her knee..
“This girl is sexy ohh, God abeg save me from this
temptation” James silently said to himself as the young
girl went straight to the bed and lied on it, she soon went
to the kitchen and fixed for herself indomie noodles. After
she was done eating, she picked up Joseph’s laptop to
watch some movies before sleeping off on the bed.
“Hey!! See this sexy legs, chai…. How I wish I can touch
them, wait! who says I can’t, by the way she is asleep na!
“James give yourself brain, this is Joseph’s protegee”
“Abegii, protegee ko, protegee ni, is it protégée that will
dress this provocatively to her mentor’s house, and sleep
like this with all her thighs exposed on her mentor’s bed,
something must be between both of them, and I am
interested in being a part of it.” James thought to himself,
as he grinned and smiled wickedly, he stood up from the
table where he was watching the movie on his laptop, and
tiptoed to where Tola was. He had a second thought as
to him touching her, but he immediately swung into action
as he made movements, touching her legs to her thighs.
His actions woke her up…
“Pastor James what are you doing?” the shocked and
confused girl asked him…
“Shhh, why are you behaving as if you are innocent,
c’mon, it wont take long, lie flat jare.” he commanded the
“Leave me alone sir!” she screamed as she tried to
struggle with James who was trying hard to get through
her clothes.
The door flung open as Joseph appeared at the door and
as if he was mad, he pounced on James, and gave him
the beating of his life, while Tola, quickly picked up her
bag which she dropped on the table and ran out of the
Joseph soon stopped beating James who was already
bleeding. James stood up and cleaned himself up. As
soon as Joseph left the room, he knew he had created
more damage to himself… His reputation as a fellowship
executive, his friendship was all gone down the drain in
few minutes of seeking justification for his fleshy desires…
“Those who live according to the flesh have their minds
set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in
accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what
the Spirit desires…. The mind governed by the flesh is
death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and
peace…. The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God;
it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so…. Those
who are in the realm of the flesh cannot please God….
You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in
the realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in
you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they
do not belong to Christ…. But if Christ is in you, then even
though your body is subject to death because of sin, the
Spirit gives life because of righteousness…. And if the
Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in
you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life
to your mortal bodies because of his Spirit who lives in
you…. Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an
obligation—but it is not to the flesh, to live according to
it… For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but
if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body,
you will live….For those who are led by the Spirit of God
are the children of God… The Spirit you received does not
make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the
Spirit you received brought about your adoption to
sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit
himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s
children.” James listened as the preacher on the radio
read Romans chapter 8 verses 5 to 16 out loud to his
ears. He knew that verse too well but he never paid
serious attention to it, though he taught it during his hall
meetings, it never made any meaning to him…. He was in
a deep mess, he needed to be saved,
“Please save me, am drowning deep in this sea of sin,
save me lord, am ready for an encounter with you.”
James cried, his eyes releasing tears in maximum
quantity. The bus he boarded at Ojota was not yet full, so
he cried right there…. Everything changed for him…
“Everything changed for me, I couldn’t trust any man, I
had the same thought for every man that walked up to
me, I believed all they wanted was my body, I kept that
incident as a secret, I didn’t even tell my mentor.” Tola
said, after she listened to James story. Funmilayo too
had joined them while they were talking…
“I am really sorry Tola, I wish I could turn the hands of
time, I wish… “James said with his eyes in tears. There
were a lot of things he needed to fix…
“Its fine pastor James” Tola said, seeing James as he
bumped to the stranger, brought back a very scary
memory for her, and she had screamed at him. She had
turned back to run when James held her hand, and said
“Tola please wait, just give me few minutes to explain
Maybe Tola was not the only one who needed to hear his
story, Funmilayo too needed to know his hidden past. And
when he was done narrating it, she looked at him and
“Tola, all I could ask is for you to forgive him…. I
understand what he went through though mine was
different, but I could remember while praying for my
spouse, and the Holy Spirit said all things works together
for good to them that love God and are called according
to his purpose. Now I understand. I went through similar
challenges and I quite understand him now.” Funmi finally
“I have forgiven him a long time ago, I think all I need to
do, forget the incident having understood why it
happened, and thank pastor James for telling me your
story,I have learnt a lot from it.” she said as she stood up
and went back to her brother’s hospital room…
James looked at Funmilayo asked “Will Joseph be able to
forgive me?”