Being in a relationship with someone who is always quick to anger isn’t really an easy ordeal, especially when you care so much about that person.
A male commenter dropped this comment below in the comment section of one of our articles and I think we should give a helping hand, as so many other people could be in this situation and wouldn’t know what or what not to do.
“Am a Malawian aged 27, am in a relationship with a girl. We have been together for two years now, but one thing that worries me a lot in her is losing temper. Would you help with some tips on how to handle my short tempered fiancée. I love her so much and I don’t want to lose her.”
I think the following tips would be needed
1. YOU WOULD NEED A WHOLE LOT OF CALMNESS
If your lady is fire, you can’t be the fuel because your relationship would definitely explode. Whenever she’s such mood, you just have to calm your nerves down and probably do nothing, else you could react in a way that would worsen the situation.
2. YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER
Sometimes, she might not even know that her temperament is that bad; so the best thing you can do is talk to her when she’s in a much happier mood. Sometimes talking to a partner about something that’s bothering you could be the best decision one could ever make. You should let her know on a lighter note that her short-temper is coming between you two in that relationship; if she’s understanding enough then she would get the message.
3. YOU SHOULD BE SUPPORTIVE
Sometimes the best way to pass over bad times in a relationship is to show love to your partner. This would make it unexpected and this would make your lady feel blessed to have you, and when she knows she can’t afford to lose you, she’d probably work on herself.
4. DON’T GET WORKED UP
You shouldn’t let her anger get to you; it’s not easy really but it’s definitely a better way out. Once it starts getting to you, you would definitely lose it, causing you to implode, and there probably wouldn’t be a remedy at that stage.
5. LEARN TO WALK AWAY
This is one act many men (married men especially) have used, and it somehow has a way of working things out. Walking away is a better option than hitting your lady or raising your voice. The tape playing in your head might be ‘you’re the man’ and ‘you deserve more respect’; but walking away doesn’t make you any less of a man rather it shows a man of maturity. Leaving her alone would give her time to reflect on her actions, and if she has a good heart, she would definitely miss you and try to change.
6. ANGER MANAGEMENT COURSES/THERAPY
I’m not absolutely sure that you can do all the work alone; inasmuch as your actions can go a long way in helping, but if she isn’t ready to improve on herself then it would really be a difficult one. You can visit a therapist together and talk about your relationship issues — opening your minds up would definitely help you both a lot.
Credit Ralph Boakye Agyeman