Many of us constantly wonder what men find attractive in women. With multiple men telling us different things and us trying to come up with our own logical answers, we come nowhere near figuring this one out by ourselves.
As easy as it is to believe that men are easy to read and all they think about is sex, you’d be surprised by what actually goes on in the insides of a man’s mind. To clear the air around this mystery, we’ve put down 12 things that men find extremely attractive in you.
1. When you’re confident
Your confidence in yourself is what attracts men towards you. It works as a bonus for you, as it gives you a bigger reason to further develop your self-confidence.
Look directly at him when you find him staring at you. Don’t stare, just casually glance at him, long enough for him to notice it. Next time you’re at a place where you can dance, show him some moves of your own. It doesn’t matter how well you do it, as long as you look confident when you’re dancing. He isn’t going to be able to take his eyes off you.
2. When you have a say
No, men don’t find it attractive when you’re okay with everything, every time. There’s a difference between being accommodating and being indecisive. Men like it when a woman has a say and isn’t afraid to voice it. This assertion could be something as simple as suggesting a restaurant both of you can go to, taking a call on which movie you’d like to watch. Maintain a good balance between being confident and gentle when you voice your preference.
3. When you take charge
Gone are the days when men liked their women dumb and passive. Ladies, he loves it when you take charge and have an active role to play in what you share with him. When you’re flirting with someone new, ask him what he usually prefers to drink and order it for him. Next time when you’re with your man in bed, guide him to do things you want done. Let him see how it is to be around a woman who isn’t afraid to be behind the wheel. Besides, it’ll be a good break from him having the upper hand. He will remember you irrespective of where it goes between you and him.
The key is to take charge and call the shots, not push him into something he doesn’t like. So don’t overdo it.
4. When you’re comfortable with being yourself
You don’t have to break yourself over aiming for perfection in everything. Work to be the best version of yourself, but do that only for yourself. Whether or not anyone else appreciates it, be comfortable in your skin because there’s no one else you need to please except yourself. No one is worth changing yourself for.
What guys find attractive is you’re so comfortable in your own skin, you’re not afraid of being yourself in front of others. In fact, you manage to do that with grace. Irrespective of what you are, be comfortable being just that.
5. Your personality
Men love it when a woman has more to her than what meets the eye, when she has different sides to her that he will find out in depth only with time. What guys find attractive is a woman whose eyes light up when she talks about her likes and dislikes, even the way she dislikes something with passion. When you’re going on about anything, be it about something you believe in, books, food, or work, he loves it that you’re passionate about what you do.
Next time he suggests spending time together, ask him if he wants to go play some sport together or go for a one-day trek, if you’re into those things. Even if you’re not someone who’s into adventurous activities, try something new every once in a while. Learn to let your hair down and have some fun.
6. Your nature
Your looks can take you up until a point, beyond which your nature plays one of the biggest roles in what people think of you. Men find it attractive when you respect yourself enough to not take rubbish from anyone, and when you know enough about what you’re worth to not settle for less than what you deserve.
How you treat people says so much about yourself. Be kind and gentle, but don’t let anyone walk all over you or take advantage of you. On the other hand, no one likes talking to someone who’s mean and rude all the time, let alone find that quality attractive.
7. You’re a happy person
Being happy helps you in so many ways. It makes you look your prettiest, gets a man to appreciate you for that gorgeous smile on your face, and makes you feel extremely light and stress-free. Wouldn’t you want to approach someone who looks happy?
Men love talking to women who seem happy and content. When it doesn’t take a lot to get you to smile or when you crack up at the tiniest of things, they adore that! Men like it when you let go of tiny things that don’t really matter instead of holding on and making an anthill into a mountain. What he finds really attractive is when you don’t overthink things and just go with the flow.
8. When you get along with his friends
Here’s one you probably didn’t know about. Men love it when you get along with their friends. He wants to be able to chill with his friends and you together, without being worried about you feeling left out. More often than not, his friends too will make an effort to make you feel comfortable.
If you’re still feeling a little out of place, don’t be clingy and crib on to your boyfriend when you guys are out with his gang. Give him his space while he spends time with his people, and meanwhile you can make conversation with other friends of his. You don’t have to pretend to like things they like doing, either – just be yourself and don’t try too hard to fit in.
9. You do things that he loves
There’s nothing that attracts a man more than a woman who’s up for doing things that he likes to do with his boys or just with him. Watching a couple of movies together while ordering food in on a lazy rainy day, watching the game with him regardless of your interest, and curse the same team just because he hates them. And not many men would admit it, but they always want to play video games with the girl they fancy.
Wouldn’t you like doing things he likes every now and then, just to try it out? Eating pizza, playing on the PS4, and yelling at players on a TV screen doesn’t sound all that bad now, does it?
10. When little things matter to you
Believe it or not, men take stock of the little things, perhaps more than women do. Whether it’s a small gift or a tiny gesture, men like it when a woman appreciates the little things they do. Remembering something from a conversation or listening to what he has to say are things that mean a lot to him. It shows that you don’t care about how big or small a gesture is, it matters just the same to you.
11. The way you go about things
What do guys find attractive in the things you do in your daily life? You’d be surprised! Men are mesmerized by how women behave when they are concentrating on something. Little things that grab a man’s attention include such seemingly petty instances like how you eat your food and how you’re extremely particular about your skin. He loves the way you stand up for what you believe in and don’t shy away from making your point. He loves looking at you while you put on your make up, because he wonders how you do it with so much precision. You’re attracting him without doing anything extra, ladies, how does that feel?
12. When you’re at your natural best
This one is the cutest of the lot. Men find it very attractive when you’re at your natural best, without the makeup and fancy stockings and other feminine frippery. He likes to see your face and your tousled hair when you’ve just gotten out of bed. He loves looking at your face when you’ve caught a cold and have a red nose, or the way your face looks flushed when the weather is cold. He finds you cute when you have that towel wrapped around your head.
Don’t believe everything shallow men and trashy magazines tell you. The key is to continue being yourself. What attracts men the most towards you is when you’re not quite aware of just how beautiful you are, so keep going about living your everyday!
Source: New Love Times